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golfwidow - email - 2003-05-04 21:21:21
I'm so sorry. .:hug:.
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laurie2002 - email - 2003-05-04 21:27:30
That was beautiful, Weetabix. *hug*
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Lindsay - email - 2003-05-04 21:39:38
You've always had such an amazing way with words. You've got me crying. Im so sorry.
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Tink - email - 2003-05-04 22:00:29
I'm sorry, love.
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Mary Ellen - email - 2003-05-04 22:23:16
Oh, Weet, I'm so sorry.
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Czarria - email - 2003-05-04 22:24:25
This one had me bawling again. :( I'm so sorry. On a side note my doctor once wanted me to get checked for Marfans, because "i'm to tall". I think my obesity rules it out. I think i'm just "big".
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ceri - email - 2003-05-04 22:28:17
Weet, I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you.
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Damodred - email - 2003-05-04 22:30:57
i'm so sorry to hear of your loss. sometimes it seems that the best go first. it was a beautiful entry.
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randommuse - email - 2003-05-04 23:09:52
This entry had me bawling and I am so sorry for you and Estaban's loss of such a special friend. But, Weet, our minds do the strangest things to us when we're in mourning and seem to only focus on the "I should've done that differently...I wish I had the chance to do 'insert action' over." But, I guarantee you that in all the time you knew Tom, there were probably so many things you did for him that seemed inconsequential to you but meant everthing in the world to him. And Tom is probably smiling down on you and saying, "But, Weet, you're forgetting about the time you...."
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MelisAGoGo - email - 2003-05-04 23:38:45
Weet, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like Tom had a beautiful soul, and your remembrance of him will always shine on. In Tom's mind, I'll bet whenever he was around you, he was dancing that lost dance and grinning ear to ear while he did. With love and prayers for you and Esteban, Melis
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ChromeMagnumMan - email - 2003-05-05 00:56:28
Weet...first off let me say I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. You have my deepest condolences. Second...by what you say you are putting to much weight upon your own back. You are not Atlas and asking Tom if he didn't mind if you begged out on that dance is not your Earth on your shoulders. If Tom is the man you say he is then he fully understood why you asked if you could just sit down. I don't think for one second he felt rejected by you. Flashing memories of cruel little girls with no care for his big, loving heart. I think he knew very well that you cared deeply for him and that you where just in pain after a long and very emotionaly draining day. In hindsight we always see how we should have done it. The why's of the world are the road blocks of our future. We can not get past what we have previously experiencied if we can't face the fact we did and there is no changing it. I know that sounds pretentious and I hope it doesn't make it sound like I don't sympathize with your pain. I'm just saying the only person who has ever had a problem with that moment in your life is you...I'm quite sure Tom never thought your worst fears.
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mo pie - email - 2003-05-05 01:17:42
Oh honey, and I talked to you and you didn't even tell me. Sweetie, I am so, so sorry. You have such a big heart and made me feel so much better today. I am sure Tom felt utterly loved by you.
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puter-chique - email - 2003-05-05 01:27:51
Your entry was truely touching. thank you for sharing that with all of us. My condolences to you and E.
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Virago - email - 2003-05-05 03:35:04
Weetabix, I am so sorry for your loss. Randommuse is right, I think. Don't overestimate your slight, and don't underestimate your friendship in regards to Tom.
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Alana - email - 2003-05-05 05:07:03
Leave it to you to touch me yet again...
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Cheri - email - 2003-05-05 08:46:22
I'm so sorry for your & Esteban's loss.
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helderheid - email - 2003-05-05 10:37:15
I'm so sorry - please don't beat yourself up.
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skibigsky - email - 2003-05-05 10:59:10
I'm am sorry for your loss - it is always hard to lose a friend. And I wholeheartedly agree with randommuse - you probably did do so many other things for him that meant the world to him, but didn't seem like a big deal to you. Think of the good times you and your husband had with him, and don't get too hung up on the other.
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silene - email - 2003-05-05 11:57:44
Weet, that was a lovely tribute to Tom. I'm so sorry for your loss. You know, I think your friendship meant more to Tom than one dance. Don't be ashamed...be glad that you got to be his friend, and that he got to be yours. *hugs* and condolences.
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-S- - email - 2003-05-05 11:58:47
Dearest Weet I'm so sorry for your loss. *hugs* You gave Tom something even more precious and that was the gift of friendship. Be well and know you and E are in our thoughts and prayers.
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hez - email - 2003-05-05 12:06:30
I'm so sorry for your loss, Weet! My thoughts are with you and Esteban today!
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Barb - email - 2003-05-05 13:13:21
I'm sorry for your loss. It's especially hard to comprehend when it's so sudden, and when death comes to someone so young. Weetabix, we can all think back on times when we should have been more patient, said a kind word, done the right thing. But we are human. We get selfish. We get tired. We get busy with our own lives... Reasons, excuses, whatever you want to call it. Please don't be too hard on yourself. I do believe that your Tom is near.... he hears your thoughts and prayers and knows what is in your heart. Celebrate his life... regret won't bring him back or give you peace. Gld Bless... B
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Smirktastic - email - 2003-05-05 13:52:47
The very fact that you would remember him, share this entry with us and feel so badly about it is testament to the fact that you are IN NO WAY like any other POS bitch who ever shot him down. Do you think any of them would remember him even thirty seconds later? Unlikely. Except perhaps to laugh at him behind his back with their POS bitchy friends. Remember the good times - and as so many others have said - don't beat yourself up. You meant no harm and you have a big wonderful heart.
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Leslie - email - 2003-05-05 19:27:44
Such a difficult thing to bear -- I feel so badly for you. In honour of Tom's memory, perhaps there's another soul in your midst right now that needs to know your kind heart. Pass your kindness on....the world so needs it.
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lostplatypus - email - 2003-05-05 22:27:22
That was lovely. The fact that you could recognize his feelings so perfectly and you had the desire to make all "right" makes you such a compassionate and giving spirit. As you were lucky to know Tom, he was lucky to know you. I'm so sorry.
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bluedove - email - 2003-05-06 04:00:37
If that was one of your most selfish moments; if that was one of the only things you've ever done that you are truly ashamed of, then you're a sweeter and more thoughtful than anyone I've known, including myself. If I were Tom, I would feel very blessed to have been your friend.
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pen - email - 2003-05-06 11:59:54
That's so sad. I'm really sorry about Tom. -Pen
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trinity63 - email - 2003-05-06 15:05:35
Weet, I am sorry about your friend, and if I were Tom, I'd be just so damn happy that you were my friend. You are one special human.
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nightngale - email - 2003-05-06 23:43:20
I'm so, so sorry for you and Esteban's loss. *hugs*
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miralogue - email - 2003-05-07 11:44:42
wow. that was a beautiful entry. it made me cry...it's so easy to blame yourself after someone is gone, but and I know how that regret feels, that you wish you had more time with a person, that you'd been perfect for them...but we're all humans, and he sounds liek an especially understanding one. and you are a great person, it shines through in your writing. i'm sure that he is watching over you guys and saying "wow. i had great friends.." i'm sure that you were a good friend to him more times than that dance.next time you dance, think of him.
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